This was the name of a group on Facebook and I just couldn’t help but to join! I thought that this was SO perfect for me at this time in life. I want to find a life partner that can appreciate me for my strong brain, my giving heart, and my kind soul – no more do I want to be judged because of the size of my butt!
I have already told you my objections to the term “plus size.” I also hate chunky, big-boned, hefty, and obese. Why can’t people just accept each other as they are? Why do we have to be labeled?
There was a time in history when women with curves were coveted. It was a sign of affluence and bounty. It was also an indicator of fertility and maternal aptitude. How far we have come in our thinking – and not in a good way! Now we idolize the anorexic. Open a fashion magazine sometime and you won’t even see healthy women – you will see skin-and-bones, anemic girls with a negative BMI. Seriously, I want to break into one of those fashion shows and make EVERY ONE of those girls eat a donut!
I wish that every man was given a seminar on realistic body expectations for a potential mate. And I wish all young girls were given a seminar on how to love themselves regardless of the girth of their hips or the size of their clothes. We need to train our young people that beauty is more than skin deep – beauty is in your character!
And, yes, we women with curves are sexy girls! We have sensuous curves that make us feminine and erotic. We are imaginative and creative lovers and we don’t discriminate based on a gentleman’s…uh…size. We wear lingerie for fun and not because we are trying to emulate some celebrity. We have butts and thighs and bellies that are soft and tender – we won’t give you any bruises from sharp elbows or protruding hip bones. And we can fill out a fun flirty bra much better than some young thang who looks like an 11-year old boy!
So I would like to send a shout-out to my fellow curvy girls! We are truly wonderful, warm, creative, loving, sexy people – and don’t y’all forget it!
Hmmm…every man to attend a seminar on realistic body expectations. Can I start with this tidbit?: Don’t expect me to look like (insert name of “hot” female celebrity here) if you don’t look like Mark Wahlberg circa 1991.
Danielle, that’s a bit one-sided and borderline sexist. Some men love women for exactly who they are and not who the media tells them is attractive. Have some faith in humans. We can’t all be pigeon-holed.
I for one have the perfect woman.. Bad temper, good humour, fragile, strong, tells me straight that im a dick, supports me in every hair-brained endeavour, suffered terribly and gave me a wonderful son, stretch marks, beautiful, love of my life.
I am down for starting/joining a curvy girl revolution. Not only are we better lovers, but better fighters too. My sister is a skinny gal, and all I have to do to win the fight is sit on her. 🙂 Curvy girls are better cooks too – Turns out that curves are a good indicator of a healthy relationship with food. I think we could start a movement. “Curvy Cooks,” anyone?
Agreed with the title of this post.
as well as i agree with your blog post that women need to embrace themselves and have confidence and men need to stop expecting everygirl to be a fashion model, i think that its also a little insensitive that girls who are naturally skinny are made to look bad or like they are doing something wrong with being skinny in the wake of this ‘curvy girl power’. do we really need to put one type down in order to lift another up? just say you like your shape. have pride. but please stop with the tiny digs at skinny girls.
thank you, and no disrespect. love your blog
People change throughout their lives. I’m 35 and met my wife when we were both in our teens. We’ve changed significantly in that time. For the better I would say. Despite the years and mileage,as well as childbirth and the changes it brings on the female body, I have never been so in love and attracted to my wife in all our 16 years together.
It seems that the whole western world is becoming a race of shallow, narcissistic naval gazers. For me “real people” with all their original bits and bobs are f@kin awesome. Really enjoyed this article.
I completely agree with everything you said! I’m not the most curvacious women out there but I have enough meat on my bones to feel warm and comfy.
I’m so tired of comparing myself to stick-figure celebrities who seem to never eat more than a bowl of salad a day. I should be proud of my latina curves and be completely satisfied with who I am just like the other thick women in my family. 🙂
So I just want to thank you for reminding me that having thick legs and a nice soft tummy just means that I have an amazing relationship with delicious food and that it doesn’t mean that I’m a whale by any means. 🙂 🙂
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Too true, there are much more important things in the world to get aerated about than size. But, all I would caution is to remain healthy. It is possible to be both large and healthy but I would always advocate the latter at the expense of the former.
I like your blog. I like how you get some, uh! sensitive subjects out there.
Good luck.