“Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host.” ~Maya Angelou
I have written before about how I think Maya Angelou is one very wise woman. And this quote perfectly describes the state of being I am trying, at this point in my life, to avoid. Hope for a better life is the only life raft to which I cling, praying for emotional release, peace of mind, and the will to go forward. I’m tired of being angry and bitter. I’m tired of being embroiled in all of this drama. I’m tired of being the subject of endless gossip. I’m tired of hearing about every movement that my ex makes – I don’t care and it only hurts me more. I’m tired of living in the same community with people who don’t care about me or only want to hurt me – I don’t want to feel the pain of rejection and betrayal anymore. I’m tired of being afraid of what the future brings and of growing old alone. I’m tired of hearing myself whine over the bad hand I’ve been dealt.
I know how unhealthy my current living situation is. I’m not an idiot and I’m not so emotionally distant as to not realize that. I share a house with my soon-to-be-exhusband. He told me the other day that it is uncomfortable FOR HIM. Oh yeah, Sherlock, do you think *I’M* farting rainbows over here? I reminded him (oh so sweetly, of course) that this situation was of HIS choosing, not mine. And that our current residential status is owed only to a rough real estate market. To which he then accused me again of sabotaging our efforts to sell the house in order to try to keep him married to me. I had to actually laugh out loud at that one – hope it didn’t hurt his feelings. Uhhhhh, noooooo, wrong again Sherlock. I think I’d rather “keep” a deadly virus or a debilitating disease – they actually are preferable to the no-good, lying, cheating bastard my husband has become.
So I have to stop being bitter about this – I have to learn to look at the humor in this whole farce. I just have to keep reminding myself that this too shall pass and someday I might want to take my story to Jerry Springer. I refuse to let the bitterness win – I’m going to learn to laugh and move on instead.