I am one of those people that is truly inspired by the wise words of others. I frequently turn to my favorite sources for quotes and lyrics to express how I am feeling or thinking. I firmly believe that people who are much wiser than I am have already written the perfect way to say something.
With my life being what it is, I could easily turn to sad, maudlin, “woe is me” music – or rock out to bitter, angry, heavy metal. But, instead, I find myself gravitating to songs that speak to me, that give me some message or meaning. Especially the ones that give me a sense of hope and promise.
My brother gave me a book to read a few years ago called “Wicked” – a retelling of the Wizard of Oz from the perspective of the Wicked Witch. It is a novel about those of us that are different than the “norm” and how we can survive and thrive and deal with heartbreak. It was a fantastic book – and an even better Broadway show! One of the most dynamic parts of this show is the evolving relationship between Elphaba (the “wicked” witch born with green skin) and Glinda (the “good” witch blessed with elfin beauty). A song from late in the show creates the moment of goodbye between these two different women who have formed an unorthodox but wonderful friendship.
ELPHABA
I’m limited:
Just look at me – I’m limited
And just look at you –
You can do all I couldn’t do, Glinda
So now it’s up to you
For both of us
Now it’s up to you:
GLINDA
I’ve heard it said
That people come into our lives for a reason
Bringing something we must learn
And we are led
To those who help us most to grow
If we let them
And we help them in return
Well, I don’t know if I believe that’s true
But I know I’m who I am today
Because I knew you:
Like a comet pulled from orbit
As it passes a sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder
Halfway through the wood
Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
But because I knew you
I have been changed for good
ELPHABA
It well may be
That we will never meet again
In this lifetime
So let me say before we part
So much of me
Is made of what I learned from you
You’ll be with me
Like a handprint on my heart
And now whatever way our stories end
I know you have re-written mine
By being my friend:
Like a ship blown from its mooring
By a wind off the sea
Like a seed dropped by a skybird
In a distant wood
Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
But because I knew you:
GLINDA
Because I knew you:
BOTH
I have been changed for good.
ELPHABA
And just to clear the air
I ask forgiveness
For the things I’ve done you blame me for
GLINDA
But then, I guess we know
There’s blame to share
BOTH
And none of it seems to matter anymore
GLINDA/ELPHABA
Like a comet pulled Like a ship blown
From orbit as it Off it’s mooring
Passes a sun, like By a wind off the
A stream that meets Sea, like a seed
A boulder, half-way Dropped by a
Through the wood Bird in the wood
BOTH
Who can say if I’ve been changed for the better?
I do believe I have been changed for the better?
Because I knew you:
I have been changed for good.
This song popped up on my iPod repeatedly about a week before what would have been my 5th anniversary. And it got me to thinking about the people and situations that I have encountered in my life that have changed me.
You hear people say that change is bad and that you should never let people change who you are inside. But, you know what? I don’t think either of those statements is true. I think, as we go through life, that we will inevitably encounter events that change the paths of our journeys – and we will stumble upon people who cause us to develop and grow into better people. Those events and those people may sometimes be very painful and ugly – but I would like to believe that they are important and beneficial.
I, for one, can appreciate the most miraculous things that have changed me “for good” – even including my failed relationships, my shattered self-esteem, the chronic depression – all of which have helped me to face tough challenges and forced me to reevaluate the kind of person I want to be. Because I have known some bad people and some people who used me or didn’t love me or ridiculed me, I have been changed (I hope) into a loving person. And because I’ve known some really kind, honest, loving, loyal, gifted people, I have been changed (I hope) into a good friend and a respectful human being.
So, to my husband and all those other people in my life who have caused me to change “for good,” I thank you for helping me to be a better person and for changing the path of my life.
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